Q & A July 2025 - Austin Dominatrix Scarlet Vexus

I haven't done a Q & A in a while. Below I have answered some questions submitted to me. Not only by subs but the general public. If you don't know where to submit questions in the future I put out a temporary link for a while on various platforms I'm on where questions can be submitted. Some questions I may have cleaned up or condensed a bit for ease of reading.

Why are you not online as much anymore?

I don't like to be chronically online and let followers/ likes run my life and be what gives me value.

I have a plan to go completely offline for months at a time and only advertise sporadically. I am secure as a Prodomme enough that I don't really need to worry as much about advertising and being online constantly on the hamster wheel of trying to put out content and attract new subs. I also don't like giving my money to certain ad platforms especially when a lot of the traffic on a few is artificially generated. The quality for example of Tryst has really tanked in the last year or two and much of the traffic is artificial at least to my awareness of what I have lurked online. It's purely for vanity points. So I recently just dropped what I was paying so I can invest it more into supplied and such.

What do you like most and least about being a Prodomme?

What I like the least is just as I've written to one of the answers above, is being on a hamster wheel constantly.

What I like about it is all the benefits it has brought into my life, both in terms of empowerment but adding a lot of fun to everything. I also like all the wonderful Dommes I've met across the years.

Is you hair short or long?

Long. It's a little past my back now. I was wearing a short wig for a while but I got bored of it.

Do you hate men?

No. That's a common misconception.

While there are a lot of men I don't like there are also a lot of examples of good men in my life who were secure in themselves, comfortable around me and had my back when I needed support. I do tend to enjoy hanging out more with femmes in my free time but I certainly don't "hate" men.

Where can I find you?

Because I have a second persona and I'm a more private person in general I keep my presence at public things involving kink sparse. I don't trust a lot of men to keep those things "private" so to speak. I instead go to smaller private gatherings.

How do you stay grounded between sessions?

My life doesn't solely revolve around the scene and BDSM. It extends beyond that and that helps me stay grounded. I try to hang out around diverse crowds of people and exercise versatility. Having that means I get to have a break from everything every now and then and that in and of itself is refreshing. I get to be invited and introduced to fun things I wouldn't have ever tried otherwise and enjoy a large diverse group of friends.

What is something people don't know but you wish they knew about you?

I hate writing about myself. It's incentivized to be a bit grandiose and things of that sort and my personality is confident but not really up the alley of I'm the greatest human on earth". I actually have dyslexia as well so I don't really enjoy typing that much for that reason either.

How often do you session?

I don't disclose exact numbers online because I don't want to imply a standard that may not be realistic to a new professional for example or someone who does things differently.

What I can say is I am comfortable enough that I could stop advertising if I want to and still be fully booking every month.

I structure everything I do as a Prodomme a certain way so that I can manage a secondary profession I really love. So I provide myself brackets to switch between pro-domination and that profession which allows me a break from the energy of each.

I am elusive, preferring a little bit of mystery as well. I'm not fond of the idea of photo collectors who just want freebies online so I generally don't have certain things public but instead privy to those who see me.

Where can I see some of your work (sessions I assume he meant) online?

In my private galleries. I don't make my work public facing due to the nature of some of it. I care less about the clout I would get putting it out public facing than dealing the worry of knowing my safety measures are not possible to fully capture in photos and someone probably can seriously injure someone or worse not caring about safety.

I am using knowledge from different areas of expertise I have that don't necessary have a class or are things a person can instantly learn in a month and do safely with no prior knowledge.

How old are you?

Ancient.

I could imagine there's a lot of big egos in your job. Do you deal with a lot of problems? (I summarize the last part of this persons question to just "problems" as it went into various things like conflict ect)

No I don't actually. I almost chose not to answer this question but I'll answer this to the best I feel possible.

Perhaps as much as other industries that revolve around power dynamics I'd suppose. I don't deny it exists but I don't really care a lot about what anyone thinks about me and  I'm generally not very interested in those things so I don't encounter that very often.

I have had a lot of healthy long term positive relationships with other Dommes and femmes in general. I find super volatile relationships to be rare in my experience.  I've been around a long time and while it is realistic to say someone may encounter something negative my experiences have been more positive than negative. There is ego but I don't think everyone in this profession is run solely by ego. There's a big difference between what's incentivized in advertising and one's personality as a whole.

I have gotten bigots. I have had unsavory remarks made in regards to my ethnic background. That is not a norm but not surprising in this day and age. I'm sure there's the people who have chronic issues with everyone eventually they encounter like could happen in any profession outside of this. I don't pay attention to people like that.  It would be sad in facr if I was living rent free in someones head as it's unlikely I would care even or notice fraction as much. They're uninteresting. I have a lot to be happy for and a life that keeps me preoccupied. Those types of people who live in their own bubbles of misery are uninteresting and insignificant. 

 I think in any group your experiences are partially dictated by discernment. I don't blame anyone for running into toxic people or if someone else's experience is different from mine however. It's impossible to 100 percent completely avoid. What I've learned in life is it's beneficial to just go no contact with corrosive individuals in any profession or group.  I don't lurk profiles, look at photos or anything of antagonistic people. I make those people nobodies and so insignificant my brain just glosses over them existing.  While there is exception and I can make a stand when it comes to things like bigotry for the most part I just don't bother with just generally antagonistic things. Their behaviors are a reflection of their own issues and are of no reflection on you so there's no reason to participate in whatever bubble of misery they're in and instead focus on being around the positive elements around instead.

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