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I'm new and I don't know what to expect
Congratulations on reaching out into this vast ocean of the world of kink and exploring with a prodomme.  There's no shame in being new. I welcome both new and seasoned players.  The biggest fear I've seen among those who are new is that they will make a mistake or be poor at leaving a good impression.  The second fear I see is fear of what may happen during a session.  Both these are very natural and normal.  I'm informative and communicative and I encourage questions.  Boundaries you list contacting me are kept into account and my presence is welcoming, knowledgeable and unjudging.  You will eventually shed most of any shyness or nervousness.

Can you play without a safeword?
Every human has their limit.  I will always give a safeword regardless of whether a sub feels they will end up using it or not.  Safewords aren't signals of weakness in any form or a goal in every session to get someone to use.  They are just indications that something may need to change direction or any number of other things requiring a short break or check in.  Safewords are there for safety and a positive experience on part of both Mistress and the submissive.

What Is Your Hourly And Deposit?
All that information regarding tribute or deposit is found here.

What Do I Expect During Sessions

I begin my sessions with a review of of you kinks and boundaries and any opportunity to say more you want to disclose about your kinks that have come to mind.  This is an essential element to my sessions.  You will check in the day of the session with me for arrival instructions.  During the session your responsibility as a sub to me will be to communicate with me any questions you have or concerns and use the safe word I give you (usually "red") if you need to stop anything happening.  It is important to a good experience for not only just me but you too.  Make sure you communicate with me anything on the spot.  If you are shy let me know and I will check in with you more often throughout.  This also goes for if you are experienced.  Communication is one of the most important foundations of BDSM and safety (mentally and physically speaking)

Can I bring  toys?

Yes.  The more the merrier.  If you bring your own private toys you will be require to clean them yourself and may use the cleaning materials available in the dungeon to do so.  If you wish to bring a toy to gift to my dungeon but wish it to be especially used on you bring it and we will use it during the session.

Do you have a shower available?
My dungeon includes it own private bath with toiletries freely available for submissive to use. 

I have a fetish I don't see listed on your site and want to request a session with it
I actually enjoy when someone suggests kinks I don't have listed.  My list of fetishes doesn't fully encapsulate all the BDSM activities I do or my extensive level of skill in many of them. If it's not listed on my boundaries it's likely something I will love to employ and if it's in an off chance a kink I don't engage in I'll simply give you a referral if I know a Mistress that does.  When requesting a session put this kink in "Others Not Listed Here" section of the form.

I had a session and now I feel "weird"?

This is so normal and happens once in a while in all sorts of BDSM scenarios with all kinds of subs and Mistresses and levels of experience.  Most of the time this is "sub drop".  I even get a form of it too as "Dom drop"  however I'm trained in how to attend to this in my own way.  It is especially susceptible to showing up after play that included particularly intense physical experiences of the body (needle play, impact play, ect).  It can manifest as moodiness and all number of things.  This comes from the level of endorphins and other chemicals that are released during play and your brain chemistry re-calibrating afterwards.  You might even feel certain things about the session after. Communicate with me. : ) However no matter how you're feeling refrain from using me as a person to take that out on.  I am far more likely to respond to communication that isn't. Sub drop is very temporary and you are healthy and completely okay.   It can also be complex for a man after play living in a society that is more biased to a certain idea of how men are suppose to be to unconsciously have feelings of wanting to regain power after feeling they were in a position that was less than powerful.  Which can even in rare cases lead to grasping at a Domme to find ways to dis-empower the Domme while regaining theirs.  To combat this always remember that subbing is completely okay and never means you are lesser of a man.  In fact it is a very powerful thing for a man in this society to be able to give himself into the power of a woman for a peroid.  He's fearless, and has conquered such fear of submission by allowing himself the release of comfort of being conquered by a woman.  It is a mutual wonderful experience that gives the Femme pleasure, and certainly what a man can give pleasure to a femme that way!  In short is a completely normal variant and expression of male sexuality.  


I don't have a lot of experience.  Is this okay?

Yes!  I like to treat all subs the same regardless of experience.  To me when you meet me it is a clean slate when you meet me for the first time.  I have my own style of play and way of doing things that will be unique to me as a Mistress.  You will be learning this as I dominate you.


Will you [insert any long specific description of an imagined situation] during a session?
I'm always very busy both as a dominatrix and other ventures of mine so only communicate with those I plan to have meaningful interactions with so don't expect an interaction out of unsolicited questions of that nature.  Though it's rare when I'm asked questions of that sort those will only result in the individual being blocked on my end.

I had a session with you and sent you an email after but you haven't responded yet.
Right after sessions I go into self care mode, this means coming out of top space, cleaning, and rest.  I usually take a day off checking emails a day after each session.  (booking request and emails with those I have session-ed with are sent to different email addresses.)

You haven't answered my booking request.
Give it a day or two and be patient.  It's likely I have been in sessions or I'm traveling and unable to check my emails yet.  Do not spoil an opportunity with impatience. My schedule of answering requests or emails is as follows:  I typically do not check emails on weekends or after 8 to 8:30pm daily in order to maintain a regular schedule and healthy regeneration of energy that benefits sessions.
I haven't replied after then you might have done something under the things I don't reply too here.


I see several dungeon rooms in your pictures.  Which one is your current?

The red and black themed one is my former, even further back is a green and bluish one (my first), my current and most largest consists of two main dungeon rooms with a garage for vehicles to park in for discretion of subs and myself.  My art studio where much of the behind the scenes magic happens is closed off during sessions.  My current dungeon is...a little too gangsta.  Much like myself as a flashy fashionista of outfits and lure of a particular type of beauty.  It is connected to a giant art project of mine and so until the interactive digital artwork that will appear on my website that is attached to my dungeon I allow only small teasing glimpses of it in my photos and visibility of it in my private gallery.  This is for my creative privacy just like an inventor whom doesn't reveal until their patent is complete,  so it is a luxury to be in the midst of!

Do you have clips for sale/porn/fan sites ect.

I have a vanilla second life that though very flexible and open to other things I do would be greatly at risk if I put out certain kinds of content. This does not mean scandalous things (so long as it's not one of my boundaries) do not happen during sessions as many many submissives I've seen have been witness too.  It is unfortunate but I cannot put out bdsm/femdom porn videos despite some of what you see out there certainly being a part of my sessions.  While my work in my vanilla life is probably even benefited by  being a dominatrix it instead destroys my opportunities if I begin to dip into the area of what things in that area of my life would consider "porn" and not just risque photography.  Regardless of how I feel about it this is the reality of society and the world I toe the line in.  If I did not have a occurring vanilla job in my life this would be less of a concern. 

I have another question
First check my Q&A posts on my blog.  Otherwise you may directly ask.

 
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CANCELLATION POLICY

Cancellations made in less then 24 hours before session - Half the session tribute is due.  Not future sessions will be accepted until tribute due is provided and all future sessions thereafter will require all tribute upfront upon scheduling.

Cancellations made in more than 24 hours before session - All tribute or donation given prior is forfeited.  All future sessions thereafter require tribute upfront upon scheduling.

 

Deposits are nonrefundable and forfeited upon cancellation of a session.  Deposits do not carry over. Deposits only carry over for one rescheduling if the time and date the session is being rescheduled for is made the same day as the cancellation request.  In all other cases a new deposit is required.